When your eyes are accustomed to darkness you can see your way around because your pupils are dilated. If now, someone switches on the light your eyes hurt from the over brightness.
If you are in a very quiet place and someone drops a plate, it makes un unbearable clatter.
If you are in a very quiet, calm and light state of mind and someone impinges on it with their loud emotions, thoughts and conversation it can be very alarming.
If you are looking at a fish through a clear pool and someone muddies the water or ripples it up, you lose your visibility.
In my prayer months most people grate on my mind. They are boring, wearying, distracting and like sudden loud noises in quiet places and like sudden bright lights on a dark night (you can’t see the stars with light pollution).
If you want to pay attention to those things that a quiet, calm, attentive mind will reveal you can’t be around most people. Even simple and pleasant interactions are grating, distracting and alarming.
Yesterday a lady invited me home for a chat. A helpful friend. But she was in no mood to talk about dhyAna. She wanted to talk about her daughter’s delivery and our sons’ education etc… It took me one whole day to recover from that conversation.
It is true that at my stage I cannot be in dhyAna all day. But most human interactions are like sudden sensory overloads like blinding lights and deafening sounds.
I imagine that people will feel hurt if I withdraw from them and that relationships will become strained.
There comes a time when we have to choose whether we want to pay attention to the divine or be nice to the people in our lives.
It hurts both ways. Giving company to nice-but-insufficiently-oriented-to-the-divine people or avoiding them and feeling like a cad.